The Great Indian Family

Life in a nuclear family is predictable. A dad, a mom, one  . . . two kids max . . .maybe even grandparents, or a pet. Clashing schedules, busy work hours, raging tempers, sissy fits . . . . seems like a plateful ain't it? But eh! yeh kya cheez hai?! Ask anyone . . . after the thrill and confusion of living in a joint family, a family of just four seems too dry, too boring. The masala and nonsense of joint families can never be matched by just four dudes!

Indians have long been known for having strong family ties and it was only decades ago, when we started aping the west and breaking away from joint families to start nests of our own. I, myself coming from a nuclear family, never really understood the allure of a joint one. Don't get me wrong . .my family is pretty close knit . .with my cousins, aunts and uncles staying just a stone's throw away . . . but it just isn't the same thing. I had my first taste of the power of community living only this summer, on a trip to Chennai and Bangalore . . . and let me tell you . . . IT BLEW MY MIND!

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It was raining boys. Lemme explain . . . summer is always a favourite for arranging functions . . .with the reason being almost everyone can make it. Tamilians are no exception. Punal or the 'thread wearing' ceremony which is performed for every Brahmin boy when he comes of age was the pick of the season.

I shuttled back and fourth between Chennai, Hyderabad and Bangalore to visit my scattered relatives. Pretty far relations . . let me tell you . . but nobody cares if you're twice removed or related from their side of the family. You are simply welcome! Indians (if I'm not wrong) follow the policy of 'The more the merrier' and true dat! Throughout the summer I had flowers in my hair and sapad ( traditional tamilian cuisine) stuffed down my throat! After two weeks of scarfing down the same thing, my bro and I were yearning for a burger like you wouldn't believe! 

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I'm not really good at remembering names and stuff so I pretty much looked like a fool when relatives started pouring in and asking 'Arrey beta? Remember me?!' I would smile uneasily and turn to my parents who would shake their head and step in to do damage control. I mean its not really my fault! Did you know my paternal grandfather had 11 siblings! Family bolo! But still by the end of my Chennai trip I was fairly successful in memorising a few names and quite a few faces. And it felt good! I mean, when people who you've hardly met, tied to you only by blood, come up to you and shower you with love . . .you feel blessed.

I guess such occasions are hard to get, so they make every one count! And even though . . many times I felt stifled and like a test rat in laboratory . .poked and prodded at . . it was worth every minute. Seeing my parents and grandparents joy of meeting up with and the pride in introducing myself and my brother to old acquaintances gave me a warm, content sort of feeling.

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And then we were on the move again. We were back in my hometown, the city of my birth,  Bengaluru! Here I was not quite so clueless, for the folks I was here to see were the kind of people you never forget. It was the punal of my second cousin, Aditya.  The only cousin our age which makes him all the more dear to my brother and I. I strolled in feeling confident and smug like a villain twirling his moustache! Ha! I knew what to expect THIS time! And BAM! Again I was proved wrong! I felt like someone had picked me up and placed me in the middle of a play where all the actors had forgotten their lines and none of the props were in place. Not to say I didn't like it . . . I actually did like it . .the confusion, it made me see everyone as my own, no differences or lines drawn  . . . I called all the grandmothers pati there ( Tamil for . .you guessed it! Grandmother!) and on many an occasion . . . I felt like my cousins were my siblings. It was a pleasant feeling indeed.

My cousin, his younger sister, my brother, another cousin and I totally tripped out! Our afternoons were spent playing monopoly and our evenings in the park. Aditya, my brother and I would often steal away for some 'big people' talk leaving the younger ones pouting and we would discuss the topics under the sun! My mom's cousin and his wife (My mama and mami ) were the real stars of the show, they planned the whole program to go off without a hitch . . . providing a real pleasant ride for the rest of us and giving us ample time to socialize and catch up with what was going on with whom.

We visited some old friends too and had a blast. After 5 years of not seeing each other . .it was like we were practically strangers . . . yet dejavu soon got the better of us and soon we were filling gap the years had left behind with our chatter. 

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And the weather just seemed to be mirroring my mood! Cool, pleasant, calm and content. I probably miss the rush for the bathroom early in the mornings and my cousins the most. At the end of the trip I was sad to go indeed. I had discovered a writer in Aditya, a nautanki in his sister Keerthana and surprisingly a team player in myself. On many occasions the most I want is to be left alone . . . yet on this trip, with even no time to breathe I wanted people around me all the time. Maybe it might have gotten old after a while and maybe I might have begun to yearn for my space again. I do know the share of problems that comes from living in joint families but this trip convinced me that all that is a small price to pay for receiving the unconditional love of family.

I don't see us actually living in a joint family in the near future . . .but I am sure of one thing! The next time my parents book a train to Bengaluru or Chennai or wherever . . . I'll be the first one packing my suitcase! 

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Homegirl

Ever heard of stories in which people see someone directly across the room, their eyes meet, a small smile plays up in the corners of their mouths and they realize that they've found their soul mates? This is not one of those stories. This is a story of how I did meet my soul mate, one of my best friends Janani. It's her birthday this 12th and I'm writing this to show her how much she matters to me. Let's begin with my usual unrelated introduction. Life is a funny bunny no? Nothing is constant in it except for you. Its an amazing journey with your goal at the end. But I've come to realize that often the road is better than the destination itself . . . you know like Moose says in Step Up 3 (Watch the movie if you don't get my reference ;) )

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So anyway, an important part of this journey are the people you meet on the way and the relationships you forge. A man is often judged by the company he keeps and I'm lucky to say that in that department I'm more than blessed. The quality not quantity of your friends matters and I'm proud to confess that I have 4 of the most awesome people as my best friends! They mean the world to me and its funny how the only thing that we don't have in common is blood! I would give them more preference than some of my own relatives. Families are the friends that Life picks out for you, but friends are the family that you pick out for life.

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 It's kind of an open secret that I don't connect to people much. Oh yeah I'm all bubbly and friendly on the surface but odds are if I've met you we probably shared a few laughs but that's it. You wont know my innermost feelings, my strongest opinions. But hey, its like that for everyone right? That's what best friends are for! (Plz ignore me if I'm rambling, I tend to do that) Anyways, to get to the point we're an unlikely pair and not something that I expected would happen.The friendship is still fresh out of the oven! But that doesn' t mean its something unimportant. On the contrary, it's one of the best thing that's ever happened to me. Getting to the point yet again, as I recall Janani and I met in the 7th grade. One of the earliest memories I have of her is her teeth chattering in the cold! (Yeah, hell of a memory I know . . but if you'd been there, you would've remembered it too! She looked like a cartoon)

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We didn't hit it off right away, but like I said my friends are the world to me and to put long things short I was latoo on Smruthi at the time. Yeah, so she was this cute kid, silent (to me), studious and funny. I never thought much of it but at the end of the year We began to speak more freely and in class 8 we were a bit more than just hi-bye friends. I have no idea why but at the end of that year I had confessed most of my secrets to that girl. I'm never usually that open to people. I tend to clutch my cards close to my chest, it took me the longest time to open up to Smruthi as well. The only other person who I've done that to is Mititsha but it was with the security that she was my senior and had a safe distance and perspective from what was going on in my life. 

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In the beginning of class 9 we started conversing over the phone. And thus we began drifting closer to each other. The more I talked to her the more I realized how stupid I had been. I hadn't see something as great as her right under my nose! She amazed me with her opinions on just about everything, her kind of dry sense of humour, her crack-ness! But it was not until one day on the phone when she told me' I love you' that I realized how close we'd become! Before you knew it we started meeting up in school. I still remember our adda, by the staircase, we had to discontinue meeting there due to some reasons and had to settle for meeting in front of either of our classes but when I did meet her it seemed like a load had gotten of my chest. Today when I see her I smile automatically . . . she has that effect on me! She's one of the most real people I've met you know? She doesn't try to hide her opinions and gives everyone a piece of her mind. It came as kind of a shock for diplomatic me! I had gotten used to trying to please everyone and trying to tailor my opinions to fit their fancy and she came as a breath of fresh air. She is extremely beautiful, this was also another thing that I realized in class 8 itself.

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But what captivates me is on the inside . . . We are two very different people yet we get along like a house on fire! We are so differently opinionated. I have my whole future mapped out for me, she just cares about living in the 'now'! It is rightly said that looks are deceptive! Don't let that pretty exterior fool you! She:
a) Talks in the most non-stop, no-nonsense manner possible!
b) Roughs me up all the time, though I'm almost four inches taller than her!
c) Is bloody impulsive and doesn't think before speaking/doing whats on her mind!
d) she loves to eat! ( yeah whats up with that? but just another reason for me to love her! It's not every day that you get a teenage girl proclaiming that she loves to hog! Next to me, Lay's is her best friend! )
e) Talks in her sleep (awww! how cute! Bella does that in twilight! Again, read the book if you don't get my reference :D)

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And its kiraak that she feels the same way about me too, when I love someone I accept them as a whole, no conditions or terms and that's all I ask of the other person too, to love me for who I am. And if I do find a person like that I sure as hell don't let go! So this is an ode to my girl, my best friend, my sister Janani . . . Thank you for gracing my life with your presence. Thank you for accepting me as a whole, faults and all and most of all thank you for making my journey that much more memorable! She's a year younger than me, but doesn't look like it! She displays wisdom that surpasses her age! So Happy Birthday girl and with the blessings of Lay's may you live a happy and prosperous life! I love you :).

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(P.S : About the heading 'Homegirl' I picked it up from the Big Bang Theory . . it means  . .. all of the above!)

I Love You

"Mamma! I wanna a dog!" I remember screeching as a seven-year-old. It's pretty obvious that I'm gaga over anything that moves on fours! Well, I started early. I found a fellow animal enthusiast in my grandfather. When I was a little kid we used to conspire on smuggling a dog into the house ( my mom had firmly put her foot down and said 'it's either you or the dog' Well, you can hardly argue with that can you? ). I remember sitting in the balcony with him in the evenings, clapping my hands and shrieking with laughter as he mused on which dog we would get. He would go along just to humor me, but for me it was a fantasy! I could hardly wait to get home from school and continue our discussions. And for three months I ate, slept, and breathed dogs until I finally convinced my granddad to actually get a dog.

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When we shifted to Hyderabad a month later, I had my first glimpse of the dog. My dog. I remember getting down from the car and watching with wide eyes. She was just a puppy then. He'd chained her to keep her from  running to us. We were strangers then, hardly having met. She yapped and growled, feisty little lady, until my granddad had convinced her we were of no threat. I named her Dome ( pronounced Domee ). Today she's a 40 kg, brownish black, German shepherd. To me she's God's greatest gift. It's been 10 years since we first met yet every time I see her I fall in love with her all over again! I love having a pet! I feel its something every child should experience. Dogs are much like children themselves, innocent and  charged with energy!

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There's a reason behind why dogs are called man's best friend. They are so much more than just animals, they are sentient beings who live and feel the same way we do. Its so much more uncomplicated with them you know . . . . I guess that's why people grow and evolve as a person after having a pet. They are able to tune in much more quickly to human emotions versus a person who's life has been untouched by such silent companions. There's a reason behind why children yearn for pets . . . they cater to your emotional needs on such a basic level, falling in love with them is an invariable factor . . . it just happens. Ever wondered why people did not have a tough time communing with something that can't respond back through words? Well when you're dealing with something with which you don't have the bluster of words to hide behind your true intentions come to life. That's why animals, dogs in particular make such excellent judges of character.
My dog is sort of an emotional anchor for me. I can vent out my heart to her, tell her about my whole day or just blabber to her in general and I know by the way she cocks her head and pricks up her years that she understands what I'm saying. When I speak her undivided attention is on ME. Tell me how many people can give you that time of day? One? Two? Yeah the worlds a fast place, there's no time anymore. Plus with a dog you can be yourself. They don't care if your fat or thin, ugly or beautiful, rich or poor, they just love you for who you are and that is a great feat by any standard.

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The utter faithfulness of a dog is commendable, the other day I was watching Hachiko and was literally in tears cause what I saw was a wonderful portrayal of the truth. It does not apply to that dog in particular rather to their whole kind, once a dog gives you his heart he invariably gives you his life too. He will die trying to protect you, you will be the thing that matters most. I doubt anyone in today's world would be so liberal! And for what? They are so free in giving their love, the street dog next to my wags her tail and makes these cute whinny noises whenever I go near just because I put out water for her during the summers along with stale bread or biscuits every evening! But the girl at school won't even smile back at me just cause I'm more popular than her! Honestly what an extraordinary waste of time! Why hate when you can love? The world's seriously a weird place to live in people . . . !!

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A touch says so much.
A pat on my dog's head tells her 'I care for you'
A kiss on her snout tells her 'I love you'
A loving caress says 'You matter to me'
A big hug tells her ' My life is incomplete without you'
Probing fingers when she's hurt tell her 'I'm concerned'
A nudge with my leg tells her 'Oi! Get outof my way!'
Its the small things which matter with her. Literally! She doesn't need to understand the words I'm saying, she gets what she needs to know through my tone. She doesn't care if I buy her chew toys or balls, she cares about me joining her in playing with those things. She doesn't need for me to cook her a heavy three-course meal, plain old Parle-G will do as long as its fed to her with the utmost love.

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I wish all relationships in life could be as uncomplicated as that. There's a single rule you have to follow while dealing with animals in general. You give love, you get love back. And that's why I loathe people who torture animals for the sake of it, they are capable of so much love and understanding but are chased around streets and are beaten mercilessly just because they have no human mouth to scream with? Just because the same emotions of pain and fear look different when portrayed on a face that's not human? Well that's just sick. I wrote this today in an attempt to make people around me understand my fascination for the subject and the world in general to know what they're missing out on!
All the best people in the world have pets! Its a proven fact!

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Masterpiece

I did not go to school today. I was feeling tired and decided to stay back at home for a day of rest. I woke up at my normal time of 6:00 and drilled into my brother the instructions he had to relay to my classmates in my absence. After assuring me that he wouldn't screw things up he left leaving me alone to my thoughts. It was crisp and cool outside, the sun just starting to rise. I pulled on a jacket and headed up to my terrace to feel the morning breeze in my face. I breathed in the dew laden, cool air of the morning and felt for once utterly disassociated from my hectic schedule and was content with just standing there and watching the sun rise slowly into the sky. That is the effect of Nature.

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To me there is no other greater artist than God, its proof is right there in the world. What human technology can create the rolling hills? The lush green fields? The majestic trees? The sky is a breathing, ever changing masterpiece. I doubt people would take the time out to notice, but do so and you'll be shocked! The clouds fluffed to perfection, suspended in a rich blue that's irreplicable by any human . . . . need I say more? Being an artist myself the canvas is my second home. The minute my fingers touch paper, they develop a life of their own, drawing, painting, etching my thoughts onto the paper. I view the world through an artists eye, its only but natural. Bright hues and colours jump out at me everyday, I find perfection in an oddly shaped leaf, in the eyes of an old dog, the tired smile of a mother, the knots in the trunk of a gnarled tree.

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Its hardly surprising that most artists find their inspiration in nature. Its a living masterpiece! I love the shape of my dogs broad head, the amber glint in her eyes, the rich mahogany of her fur, she's beauty in herself. I love the way the sunlight filters through the air, highlighting minute dust particles which are otherwise invisible to us. I love watching my caramel skin turn golden under its rays and I love the way it picks up the brown streaks in my hair, highlighting each curl. Trees which people don't give a second glance to enrapture me. I love running my hand through freshly mowed grass, feeling the dew drops on my fingertips. Baby green plants that grow along with tender white flowers in my gardenare a sight to behold. The curve in the petal of rose is spectacular and the transparency of a single water drop is celestial.

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The sight of the sea is a breath taking one. I've visited it only two times so far yet its magnificance is etched into my mind. I was in Chennai, visiting my uncle and he's taken us to a little beach quite close by. Little for him, I was blown away by the spectacle before me. I couldn't tear my eyes of the emerald waves rolling in from the sea, I could taste the salt in the air and I could feel my feet sinking into the warm golden brown sand. Ofcourse I was slightly disgusted by the sea weed washing up and tangling around my legs through the waves, but I was more than a little annoyed by the plastic coke bottles and chips packets that bobbed in the water. They were not enought to steal the glory away from the vista but were an ugly blotch which I could do nothing about.

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Life is all about living in the moment, finding beauty in places where you least expect it. To me, nature is a balm for a day gone wrong, that along with Daughtry's - September (a song) playing in the background I'm more than relieved to slip into oblivion.

A tribute to Her . . . .

This is probably one of my most overdue posts. I've blogged about almost everything and anything under the sun. This one goes out to the special women in my life. My candles of hope, my unconditional givers of love, my TEACHERS. Teachers are one of the most influential people in a child's life. That is an understatement. They have the power to make or break you. I consider myself extremely lucky to have been blessed with such an elite team of individuals. It's no wonder I remember every single teacher who's ever taught me. Let's start from Grade I.

I remember bawling my eyes out one June morning, I clung to my grandfather as he unsuccessfully tried to deposit me on of the benches in the room. My to-be classmates stared at me with an amused air, I swear I heard a few chuckles or two. Now who could blame them? They probably thought I was the next best thing to Shin Shan! I mean which I'st Grade student cries her way into the school building and into the first academic session? Apparently it is I. It was a new school and I was no more than a pudgy toddler. It was then I had my first taste of the power that is TEACHER.
She swept in with an air of calm, her cool fingers wiped away my tears, her lilting voice soothed me enough for me to release my stranglehold on my grandfather. She was Lekha ma'am my first ever class teacher and I was smitten by her!

I shifted to Hyderabad in class IV. I was determined to make things work this time. So my chin stuck up in the air, lips a-quivering I marched into my new school ready to face a whole new world. I settled into the rhythm of my new life quick. I was shy, incredibly so (those who know me today will ask you to get your brain checked if you tell them this). But life moved on, I was the type of girl who would sit in the front row, spectacles pushed up on my nose, hand already in the air to answer the question that had hardly left the teachers mouth. But my padaku attitude did me good. I was soon the topper of my class. I was always my teacher's chamchi which invariably made me a favourite in their eyes. But it wasn't till class VII that I actually discovered just how much the bond is worth.

I used to suck at math! It was a subject summoned from my personal hell just to torment me! I guess my problem was that I lacked a proper understanding of the subject, all my math teachers up till then somehow never managed to exactly get through to me, whatever the case I vehemently despised the subject. I remember getting my first and last 'D' in the subject in class VI, and I have never gotten a 'C' ever in my life! So when then the new academic session started my misery knew no bounds.

The first math class my teacher Shamini ma'am called on me to demonstrate a sum regarding Integers on the board. My hand was shaking as I gripped the chalk but something in her expression kept me going and I finished confidently. Her one nod of approval and the warmth in her eyes tingled me till my toes. Maybe this year won't be so bad! I thought. Boy was I even close!

My class VII teachers were my best ever. I enjoyed a wonderful rapport with them as well as my friends. A sense of family enveloped me whenever I stepped into the school. Life could get no better! We had a tightly knit group of about 6 or 7 girls. We were notorious for making mischief, yet also the apple of our teachers eyes who swore their hair would grey up before they got us to tone down! We loved them too. They were so caring, informal, their classes lively and entertaining. But towards the end of the year I was facing problems with some of the group members. I was depressed for a few days but forced myself to keep going at the problem until it was solved. But that's not the issue. Every year we have a Hobby darshan at the end of the academic session where children display their skills.

This year my parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, the whole lot of them decided to accompany us to the school. Somewhere amidst the noise and confusion I remember Shamini ma'am coming up to me and drawing me aside. By then we had established a lovely relationship. She had turned around the subject math for me. Admitted I was not the sharpest tool in the shed but the proud look on her face when she handed me back my answer sheets always drove me to perform better. I loved my math teacher which invariably resulted in my loving her subject too. Anyways back to her pulling me aside. Her eyes were full of concern. She had noticed that I looked put out the last few days and had wanted to know if something was wrong! My mind was reeling! Never had any teacher shown so much love and care for me! I just wanted to hug her then. Her compassionate expression drew the secrets out of me and pretty soon I'd poured my heart out to her.

Shamini ma'am encouraged me promising me that I would definitely do well and that I was one of her best students so far.
And life moved on. I still see her every spare minute I can, rushing to her class whenever I have a free period. She always drops whatever she's doing then and makes time for me. She makes me feel special, blessed and for that I cannot thank her enough. I came to class VIII a whole new batch of teachers to impress. But I managed none the less. I took a liking to my Hindi teacher Sangeetha ma'am. She is the BEST Hindi teacher I've had so far. She is filled with a motherly love for her students and my heart turns to putty whenever I'm with her. She believed in me and made me look for things I never knew I had in me. And when I won the elections for the Asst. Head Girl she beamed with pride touching my heart with her simple gesture. But the most best thing that has happened to me since I entered the senior block is my principal Simi ma'am.

She is the epitome of efficiency. She shoulders so many responsibilities yet always has a smile for you at the end of the day. It's pretty obvious why she's the principal. They don't make women like that anymore. Back of steel, heart full of love, she had me in raptures the first time I spoke to her. She oozes confidence and the first time she spoke to me remembering my name I felt I had accomplished something great! Even today, a year from when I met her I can't help but be awed with the way she carries herself. She's a wonder on stage and she is the first 'Role Model' I've ever had.
Apart from her I also have my English teachers Aanchal ma'am and Sudha ma'am. All the credit goes to Aanchal ma'am for making me the writer I am today. I remember she'd urged me to go for an inter school essay writing competition in class VII and I'd won the first prize. There was no looking back from there. Sudha ma'am she's my English teacher this year and it's amazing the amount of work she puts in for her students. Sheila ma'am my physics teachers too is very observant and has a lovely aura about her which immediately relaxes the students.

All in all I would like to give big muah! to all my teachers cause I can't stop thanking them enough for making me who I am today. I know they will always remain a part of me forever, you can't erase something that had been engraved into your heart! And that is an understatement.

Tick Tock!

Some people say that money is the most important thing in the world, others say happiness . . . . well I agree with neither. To me TIME is the most invaluable thing on the planet. I mean just look at the facts . . . . time embodies the unattainable. Once gone it never comes back. Every minute, every second is unique in itself. People I guess realized this a long time ago. Ta Da! The clock is invented. Time can only be measured, never stopped. It doesn't matter if you're rich or poor you've no influence whatsoever on it.
Time adds value to an action. Takes it, shapes it, defines how it needs to be carried out. Nothing is of value if it isn't performed in the appropriate time window. That is the power of time.

Its funny how people lust after things that quite frankly aren't worth it. Yeah I know its wonderful to have a roof over your head, expensive shoes on your feet, a big car to drive around in but those things don't matter in the big picture. I firmly believe God created everyone with a purpose. I'd once read in Frozen Thoughts (Awesome magazine, you've got to check it out) that the 'Creator helps those who help the creation.' Simplified it states that people who taste success are those who rise above themselves and give their all to the world. Like Kangana Raunat said 'There's a world outside my world' How true! People (including me) are so obsessed with themselves. It gives them no satisfaction to step outside their comfort zones. That's probably why I want to become a veterinarian. I find a life lived for oneself a life not worth having lived. If you're not the reason for a smile on someones face, the subject of someones grateful words then consider yourself a big fat loser!

Those who have risen above themselves and embraced the world are those who have tasted immortality. 60 years ago Gandhi Ji could've just walked on turning a blind eye towards the atrocities of the British, Mother Teresa could've thought "Hey screw others! Why should I be bothered?" and Martin Luther King could've just continued with his life. But they did not. They made a difference in others lives which resulted in a huge difference in their lives! Their kind words and courageous actions catapulted them into glory which is more than what any Tom Dick and Harry has to boast of today.

Time teaches people to live in 'NOW'. Screw immortality! I personally would find it extremely boring to live forever.  All good things come to an end. That's the way the world functions.The shadow of death is in a way a good thing you know . . . . People feel the need to prove something, to the world, to themselves before their time is up. Where's the fun if you're not always on your toes? Flying from one task to another? Revelling in the feeling that is LIFE?! Live every moment with the realization that this second, this moment once gone will never return! It would be pretty pathetic to look back on your life and be unhappy with the way you've spent it. Yeah . .that would totally suck. So, this is me signing off, cause the clock on my wall is going tick tock . . . . tick tock . . . tick tock!

Infectious

I am grumpy, pissed off, annoyed, irritated whatever you can call it. Basically I'm not in the mood to be messed with. Long story short my day was nothing short of a disaster and I'm feeling totally grumped out with the whole world for no particular reason. Right now I feel like pulling the next person who approaches me and giving them a piece of my mind! God! It feels so nice to unload your frustration on someone like that, scream, kick, throw a tantrum! Basically do everything you know you're going to regret later! But that's not who I am. My parents have always taught me to carry my own baggage. I've always been taught to keep my emotions in check and behave towards others the way I would expect someone to behave with me.

And I completely agree with this policy. I mean, why should someone have to suffer for you being stupid? Believe me, I know people who feel the world revolves round them, their moods are directly proportional to all those around them. I firmly despise such people. A grumpy mood is like an infection, something that is passed on unconsciously. It starts out as something you are unhappy with but before you know it the whole room is grumped out thanks to your negative vibes. I know the elation of getting something off your chest yet I've also experienced the agony of a hasty decision. Riding the storm out is always better than succumbing to the waves. Pouring your troubles out to someone who sympathises is a different thing, forcing someone to endure your foul mood just because you aren't at the happiest moment of your life is plain torment. No person, especially your friends and family should be subjected to such stuff.

The way a person deals with a sticky situation speaks a lot about their character, the whole world is watching  and every move of your is checked. I stared at my sullen face in the mirror, a  sullen face stared back at me. Further goaded a scowl spread across my face, being mirrored by my reflection the next instant. I glared for a moment contemplating on whether my reflection deserved a punch or not. And then it struck me! Man, was I being childish or what!? I was receiving exactly what I was giving. The scowls and frowns on the mirror were produced by me. I laughed out loud at my stupidity and was pleasantly surprised by what I saw! My face lit up and was much more pleasant to the eyes.

I remember a story I read somewhere which really inspired me. A guy 'A' had gone to an optical centre to get his glasses fixed. He was accompanied by his friend - guy 'B'. They both got their frames repaired, but while guy 'A' was happy with his glasses, his friend was highly annoyed with his and promptly threw them in the trash can on the way out.. A third guy who observed all this commented about it to the sales clerk behind the desk. The clerk smiled and replied that it was no fault of guy 'B' and his actions were justified as his lenses were tinted red due to some manufacturing mistake and the world world appeared dyed in red to him. The same way, lenses are the way through which we view life, some have a clear view while others are prejudiced. If your lenses are tinted red, do what guy 'B' did - trash them. Life will get that much more uncomplicated.  

I'm not saying we are always meant to be the epitome of patience and are meant to be polite and courteous all the time. It feels fun to let go sometimes! Being grumpy is fine as long as the person in question is only you. Like the saying goes 'Your freedom ends at the tip of the other person's nose!' your mood too stays with you.Being tolerant is always the safer bet in life as things have an uncanny way of coming back to us in the end!